How to Meet Kinky Men for Gay BDSM Dating

Let’s face it, the numbers can be tough if you’re a gay man looking to get your kink on. Even in the biggest cities, which attract large gay populations you’re looking optimistically at 10% of the overall gay male population being into the same kind of kink that you enjoy most. Offline, even more pessimistic numbers apply if you’re not a resident of a gay metropolis, with recent surveys indicating national gay and bi populations in the three percent range with BDSM enthusiasts being a small fraction of that fraction. So, now that we know the problem, what’s the solution?

You could travel, New York City and San Francisco spring immediately to mind as destinations with thriving gay BDSM scenes, but for many the cost and time demands are just too much to make pilgrimages a viable solution, particularly if you’re looking for something on a regular basis. There’s always craigslist, but the risks associated with using it are well documented, and particularly if you’re a sub, you may be setting yourself up as an easy target to be preyed upon unfortunately.

Even if you’re fortunate enough to live in a city with a gay BDSM scene, going to clubs, which is sometimes a nice option as they often offer facilities that are impractical to have at home, can be an expensive proposition and requires you to get yourself home, which can be difficult after a long night of scene play with other BDSM Gay Men.

That’s why gay online dating sites specifically tailored to your BDSM interests have grown in popularity so quickly. Take a look at Gay BDSM Date for example, and what you’ll find is a purpose-built site that caters to men who want to have BDSM experiences with other men. No sifting through women in corsets, no posers who have checked a profile box because one time in college their boyfriend held them down during sex, just real gay men who have chosen to join this dating site specifically dedicated to the gay BDSM community. Another great thing is that the site has already met the “critical mass” required for it to be a great resource with lots of active gay BDSM enthusiasts.

Given the site was designed from the ground up to cater to the desires of the gay BDSM community, profiles, searches and photo standards have been harmonized with those needs, allowing you to hone in on exactly the scene you’re looking for, including searching for very specific and in some cases “extreme” fetishes.  The site is free to join and get your profile set up, so there really is every reason to give it a look as you join the growing population of gay men who are looking for kink online these days and actually finding it right now!

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