Married Men on the Down Low: Should You Bother?

Anyone who has spent any time online for the purposes of meeting men has surely seen them: “straight” married men on the prowl, looking for some homo action. With entreaties like “Must Be Discreet” and “Wife Doesn’t Know,” usually accompanied with disclaimers like “they rarely do this,” “str8,” “curious” and whatever other descriptor they feel compelled to add to let you know they really are indeed, “straight.”

If you’re looking for a one-time fling, and are attracted to the individual, by all means give it a go. Understand going in that you’re likely dealing with someone who is very conflicted about what they’re getting up to with you, and quite often, at least in our experience they are pretty lousy lays as a result, full of restrictions about what is in and out of bounds. You may end up with one who starts crying mid-coitus, which is likely not what you have in mind. Or others who are so excited that it’s all over before it even starts. But the Y chromosome is a blindingly powerful motivator, and lessons learned are often forgotten when there’s sex in the offing.

Perhaps the worst thing that can happen is a strong attraction, one way or the other or worse yet, mutual. If he is married and unavailable, the last thing you want is to become the second-stinger in a closeted married guy’s life, nor is it particularly good for your karma to be a home-wrecker. If you find that there is attachment growing between you and your married fuck-buddy, the time to end it is now!

While we obviously have a hard-learned opinion on getting involved with married guys, many find the appeal of the conquest of a “straight” man appealing, and frankly for all our high-minded ideals, we’re guys too, so we’re not above throwing those ideals aside when push comes to shove, but make sure you go into the situation with your eyes wide open, and always, always practice safe sex, regardless of how “safe” a partner he appears to be, you never know if he has another slut like you that he sees on other days.

Wondering where to find these down low, married men looking for discreet sex? Try Discreet Gay Dating. And if you have a story of your own to share, please do so in the comments below!

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