Are You Sure You’re Gay…?
There are plenty of closeted gay guys out there. Closeted straight guys, though? You better believe it. And I’m here to defend them.
Here’s where this is coming from: I’ve heard complaints from a number of gay guys about “guys who say they’re bi but really they’re straight, and just looking to get off with another guy—it’s a phase they’re going through.”
First, I say this: if that is, in fact, the case, who cares! Who says people can’t experiment? Who says people can’t go through a “phase”? As long as no one is being lied to, as long as everyone is honest, what crime has been committed? And who, exactly, makes the rules on what constitutes a bisexual?
Not me, that’s who.
I can’t help but notice the one thing all these complainers have in common: these guys have all, at some point or another, fallen head over heels for a guy who wasn’t “fully” gay—and have had their hearts broken once nature took its course.
I’m not trying to insinuate that it isn’t difficult to be in love with a guy who your conscience tells you is incapable of giving himself to you completely. Of course it is. It’s also hard being trapped in a straight relationship when you know you’re actually gay. I’d hope in such a case you wouldn’t blame your female partner for not being what you really want.
It seems most “questionably” gay guys identify themselves as “bi” in their profiles. If you’re looking for something long-term, maybe it’s best if you stay away from those guys. Because as much as you’d like to think so, you do not have the power to change anyone’s sexual orientation (and, oh! the times I’ve heard people talk about how they can!) You can enlighten someone and expand everything from their experience to their repertoire—but you can’t change them.
You like cock or you don’t. Or you like both. That part, I think, should be pretty straightforward.
For those of you out there who aren’t looking for anything long-term, I cannot recommend bi/straight guys enough! For a NSA hookup, no one seems to want cock more than a guy who rarely gets it.