Porn Fuel
I feel like such a hypocrite sometimes. I demand the nastiest, sluttiest, high-stakes porn available, and insist (often within these posts) that nothing else is worthy. But I suppose a quick discussion of the dangers of such porn is in order.
I’m thinking of newbie-gays and in-the-closeters, both of which I know many and have been myself. The sexual frustration of living in the closet and the sometimes party-headedness of those just-out can be the kind of fuel required to do something stupidly dangerous—and unsafe party-porn is a deadly spark.
It’s hard not to watch it. It is, afterall, the ultimate fantasy to behold. We imagine ourselves in the same scenarios, doing the same things. Soon you discover the kind of sex you’ve been watching actually happens in places like bathhouses, or you see on message boards that p’n’p group sessions are taking volunteers. And both of these options will no doubt involve anonymous sex. Your curiosity mounts, your frustration boils over, and next thing you know you’ve decided to “investigate”. Fantasy can often, ultimately, have that effect.
Snap out of it. You’re not thinking straight. You’re thinking, “I’ll try this just once, just so I can get it outta my system. I’ll use my awesome judgment. I’ll keep away from the guys who “look dangerous.” I’ll stick with the guys who “look healthy”, who look like they take care of themselves. I gotta try it once. Just to get it outta my system.”
Once is all it takes. And if you’re really considering it, clearly that judgment you’re so proud of is not being used at all. To unsafely dive into this fantasy will not get it “out of your system” after one go. What it will do is put you at risk, and potentially teach your judgment to keep to itself while you continue to secretly get your fill.
The alternatives will seem, at first, hardly as thrilling as your ultimate fantasy:
– stay in the closet
– have safe anonymous sex
– hook up with guys you’ve actually come to know and have safe sex with them instead
– settle into a committed relationship and go unwrapped
Trust me, time and experience out of the closet and on the gay scene will take that AnonymousRawsexGangbang craving away, and you can settle into reality. The “dangerously enticing” porn will find a comfortable place in your viewing schedule and remain nothing more than that: porn to be watched for fun.
And if you never plan on coming out of the closet, I cannot stress this enough: watch all the nasty unsafe porn you like in the comfort of your own home and have yourself a good wank. Without exception, once you cum, you’ll be fine. And as you’re cleaning up you’ll think to yourself, “Holy fuck, I’m glad I didn’t actually go to that bathhouse…”
Be safe!