Woohoo! You’re off to join your first 3some! No problem if you’re a little nervous, that’s natural! Know what else is natural? Once the clothes come off and the play begins, you may feel like the odd man out. Know what else? You just may be the odd man out…
Allow me to offer some words of encouragement and a couple of helpful hints for the newbie-groupie who feels the pangs of neglect.
Even out of the bedroom – at the office, at a dinner party, etc. – getting to know someone takes time, dontcha think? Instant chemistry is beyond control; it happens or it doesn’t. (Group dynamics change with each different group! Another coupling might put you in the spotlight! Another might include a ball-popping chemistry for the whole trio!)
Should you, however, find yourself steering the third wheel, the sauciest thing to do is help the other two guys along, and enable the session for their sakes. Not only will it give you something to do, it’s smuttily voyeuristic, and your buddies will appreciate your enthusiasm. Let me give you some simple examples:
- one guy’s getting fucked: help keep his ass/legs spread
- they’re 69ing without you: lick whatever bits are left untouched
- the other 2 guys are kissing passionately: encourage the kiss by helping to keep their faces together (kinda kinky and domineering)
- vocalize a play-by-play, and encourage whatever it is they’re up to
Remember: making other people happy can be just as satisfying. It’ll be greatly appreciated and with any luck, you’ll be asked back; before you know it, they’ll be taking a turn on you next time. But the moment you back into a corner, you’re done-for. You’ll feel obligated to sneak away and will leave a lasting impression of ineptitude, standoffishness, and disinterest. And you won’t be called back.
Like great sex in general, an anything-more-than-2some is best with practice and repetition (you’ll hear me say this ad nauseum in these entries: practice and repetition, practice and repetition – treat your sex life like your piano lessons.)
Personally I can’t get enough 3somes, even if the odd one keeps me at a distance. But as long as I don’t feel threatened or bored, there’s always a way to make the trip worthwhile.
Be safe!